Right on schedule after Friday's Summer Solstice, we've officially turned the corner into the first scorcher of a week here in New York City. Are you guys feeling the heat too?
Working up a sweat can be sexy in the right circumstances, but not so much at the beginning of a date. I've got a first one tonight, and I'm already a little hot-in-the-bad-way just thinking about trying to put on nice outfit, make my hair look decent, and keep my makeup from running into my cleavage while walking 10 blocks in 90+ degree weather. So in order to give myself and any other summer daters out there a pep talk, I thought I'd put together a list of ways to keep yourself cool so your date thinks you're hot (as opposed to just sweaty).
Get there early. Usually I actually like to let the guy get there first (only by a few minutes, I don't let the poor guy wait for half an hour!), but when there's unfavorable weather like heat or rain, I like to plan to get there a little early in case I need a quick bathroom touch-up or just a few minutes to cool off. Nothing makes you overheat like rushing in a panic so he doesn't think you stood him up.
Time for an updo. My typical go-to hairstyle is loose waves, but if the temperature is above 85, I could not care less if boys prefer long hair they can run their fingers through. It's going up. Luckily, I've heard many a guy wax poetic about the sexiness of a woman's neck, so here's the chance to show it off.
Stick to indoor activities. A nice, breezy summer day is perfect for a walk in the park. A humid, sticky, unbreathable one is much better for a movie or an air-conditioned bar. Suggest an activity at a place you know has reliable temperatures and cool drinks.
Let yourself breathe. I don't tend to dress overly sexy on early dates anyway, but temperature can definitely make me rethink anything tight or constricting. Luckily, a loose-flowing sundress is most guys' weakness anyway.
Excuse yourself. If you need a minute to cool off, try my trick: Excuse yourself to go to the bathroom, and wash your hands in cold water. I mean, if you actually use the toilet, use hot water first for germs. Then change the temp, and let the cold water run over your wrists for a few seconds. It cools you off like a charm!
Stay low. Heat rises, so I avoid heels. OK, that's not exactly how it works, but I do find that like tight dresses, anything that makes me uncomfortable walking tends to make me a hotter mess. Flats or low wedge sandals are the only way to go.
Hydrate, hydrate, hydrate. My usual date-rule of one water between alcoholic drinks sometimes changes to two waters per cocktail in the summer. Something about drinking in hot temperatures makes me feel drunker faster, always a recipe for dating disaster.
Carry the right tools. My lovely co-blogger Melissa keeps powder and Olay face wipe in her arsenal "because, you never know if the date's going to get hot and heavy and you want to be fresh (just being honest, ha)." I like oil-blotting sheets and a mini roll-on perfume.
Oh, just relax. If you arrive at the bar with a delicate sheen (read: totally sweaty, bright red face) or your shirt is sticking to your lower back, you know what? You're a human. It's hot. Your body produces water to keep you cool. So does his. So if it bothers him, he's clearly an alien without sweat glands or a total jerk, and who wants that?